Until then…

A year ago, I wrote down several characteristics that I would want my future mate to possess. The list stemmed from a study that we did as a group in one of my life groups at church. It wasn’t a superficial list but stated a few essentials that I read in the Word. I wanted to be intentionally praying for the man I would one day marry. I wanted to pray that the Lord guides his steps even before our fateful encounter. I wanted to pray that he remains a man of character with a heart that would lead him to repentance when he does err (like we all do).  By no account do I think that this man will be perfect but I hope that he is sincere and genuine. I hope he has a thirst to know the Word of God and to be the leader that God called him to be. I hope that he will be intentional in leading his family in the way of God.

However, as I sit and wait for the Lord, the journey can get rough. I often meet men who have the appearance of godliness but deny the power there of. I meet men that can be misleading, with impure motives and agendas. I meet men that can’t lead me to the corner store let alone in the truth of God’s Word. Before you say I am man bashing I want to also say that I know many more men who love their wives, children, family and community. I know men who rise early to pray and seek the counsel of the Lord. I know men who correct their family in love and provide an example of a priest in their home. I know men who are devoted not only to their families but to the single mothers in their community by helping them with their children’s needs when the father is not around. I know men who play the role of the father to girls who may have never had that experience growing up. I know men who work hard to provide and ensure their family has a future. I know men who are working hard to leave a legacy of godliness behind.

Therefore, I won’t get discourage in this journey when Satan presents his counterfeits. I am not surprised when I get random proposals from men telling me that I am their wife. All I have to do is line them up with the many examples I see in God’s Word and in my community. Even when I feel that the man I so delicately pray for has walked off the letter I wrote a year and embodies all the characteristics that I hope for, I cannot get dismayed when his walk doesn’t line up with his talk. I recently met someone that possesses everything that I always wanted BUT the right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing. So I will continue to wait for that fateful encounter and I will trust God with my future. I know that no good thing will He withhold from me so I will trust Him. I will pray for men to have boldness to follow Christ. I will pray for my sisters who are single that we live a life pleasing to the Lord and don’t get caught up on what we think we don’t have.  We have so much already! Don’t stop believing and don’t lose hope. Don’t allow bitterness to set in your hearts. Do not allow your past to harden your heart but present your bodies as a living sacrifice to our Savior.  I will also pray for my married friends that they continue to support their husband’s leadership. For all things work together for those who love the Lord.  

God bless,


10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Stephanie H.
    Dec 05, 2012 @ 12:07:14

    Great read Aisha, it definitely gives me something to think about in this thing we call life:)


  2. Nicole M.
    Dec 05, 2012 @ 14:24:35

    Excellent!! I love “the right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing”…our times and seasons are in God’s hands and even though some seasons may seem longer than others, we can rest in that He has his BEST for us. Here are a couple of blogs that have helped to encourage me in this area: http://www.singleroots.com & http://www.loveandgracemedia.com. Thanks for sharing your heart 🙂


    • aishahasina
      Dec 05, 2012 @ 15:29:53

      Thanks for sharing those blogs! I will check them out. I just went through a right thing at the wrong time experience. It’s one of those things where you constantly have to renew your mind and focus on “lovely” things or you can get caught up in your flesh.


  3. samantha
    Dec 05, 2012 @ 20:14:42

    Great blog! While reading it I was reminded of some words on of my married friend said to me on day after service when I was single and struggling with meeting the “right guy.” She told me God was preparing me for my King…”the one He kept just for me.” Be patient and enjoy what God has before you now. When it is your time, in His time, he will present you with the someone that he set aside just for you!!! And you will know it cause He has prepared you and refined you through all your life experiences!!!!


    • aishahasina
      Dec 06, 2012 @ 09:53:16

      Thank you Sam! I definitely know the lord is preparing for something. He has stretched me in so many areas especially over this last year. I appreciate having sisters like you to help and encourage me along the way. : )


  4. One Flesh
    Dec 17, 2012 @ 15:33:47

    “The right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing” Love it! You are such a great writer! I also love the part where you said that God will not withold any good things from us. God bless you and keep blogging!!!!


  5. Rashad Ballard
    Jan 28, 2016 @ 23:18:20

    I so love this very Divine. A Queen has shared freedom speaking wisdom and life. A King hears or reads this and He rises. His Kingdom grows. As he who finds his Queen finds his Wisdom, may they Reign in Truth, Just, Fairly, and in God! Lady Hasina Ballard…


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