The hope in heartbreak


Romans 8:37-39

But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Love can be such a fantastic, exhilarating and liberating experience! You have all these different views of how your love story will develop into a beautiful tale that your one day grandchildren will tell their children. Or maybe how you and your mate will serve Jesus, hand in hand, conquering the world together? Possibly, it’s the undoubting knowledge that you can trust this person with your innermost thoughts and fears without the air of judgment. Your mate will provide the satisfaction, contentment and love your heart has desired since you were a little girl. Love…such a beautiful thing UNLESS it doesn’t go according to YOUR plans. Unsustainable love has the opposite effect. You suddenly question every minute you spent with this person. You wonder if you ignored the signs, if the devil was using them to get to you or if you had a momentarily brain lapse with a brief stint of insanity! I say all of this sarcastically but we all have been there at one point or another. You know the place…it’s always open, has many visitors, yet it’s a very lonely place, no double occupancy allowed but you can stay as long as you like….can you guess it? Yep, it’s Heartbreak Hotel! What a place! Not only can you stay there but many musicians have provided a soundtrack of misery induced songs you can listen to or authors who have novels designed to keep you in a place of glum. It’s insane how this world makes it so easy to be sad and miserable. However, there is a solution. His name is Jesus. I know… I know. I knowwww what you are thinking. Oh doesn’t that sound just so easy Aisha? I have laid it down at the altar and I don’t feel any better. Or, it’s easy for you to say that, you don’t understand. I get it. People keep telling you the same thing. Well let me add something to my “Jesus is the remedy” saying. Heartbreaks are sometimes necessary to bring you closer to God. Gasp! I know, it shocked me too! It wasn’t until my heart was broken that I finally understood everything God was trying to tell me. I’m not the only one either. I have seen this play out with a few people. Now I am not suggesting this is everyone’s plight in life but for a hard headed few of us, God uses whatever He sees fit to draw us closer to Him. It wasn’t until I had a man pursue me and love me, just for me being me that I allowed my heart to get vulnerable to the point I was able to throw caution to the wind. I was able to be free like that innocent little girl that never had a guarded heart or a barricade of walls blocking anyone from trying to get in. I was truly free! But what I didn’t realize was that he was only able to love me with imperfect, human love. He wasn’t able to cover all of my needs…it’s actually not a realistic request either. His love seemed to satisfy me but it wasn’t eternal. As safe and as happy as I felt, it didn’t last. However, when things ended, I heard a whisper from my savior that said, “My love is not like that, it’s forever”. Right before I could pack my bags for a stay at heartbreak hotel, my loving savior reminded me how perfect His love is for me (and you too). There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting human love but there is something drastically wrong if we want it in place of a loving relationship from our Heavenly Father. I didn’t realize how much adoring affection was waiting for me in the arms of Jesus. There is so much hope in heartbreak. When we are broken, we recognize our need for our Father. He is pursuing us with His perfect, unchanging love. You don’t have to be sad, hurt or confused. We are in a fallen world and some of these types of things will happen. No matter how hard it seems, seek the Father for love and comfort. He really does answer prayers. Try it for yourself!